Wedding Ceremony in a church – abbreviated

Entrance choreography

Music – Brooke Fraser – Shadowfeet/Hymn


Kia ora koutou nga whanau, nga hoa o … me … Nau mai haeremai ki tenei ra tino whakahirahira.

Greetings to you all, family and friends of ….  Welcome to this very special day.

This beautiful church has born witness to many a happy marriage and we are blessed to be part of its loving energy today.
“We celebrate the love that brought you to this day. With love that deepens through many years, may you know its meaning and its mystery – how we become truly one in sharing ourselves with one another, and yet, remain truly two in our own uniqueness. May your house be a place of happiness for all who enter it, a place where the old and the young are renewed in each other’s company, a place for growing, a place for music, a place for laughter. And when shadows and darkness fall within its rooms, may it still be a place of hope and strength for all who enter it, especially for those who may be entrusted in your care. May no person be alien to your compassion. May your larger family be the family of all humankind. And may those who are nearest to you and dearest to you constantly be enriched by the beauty and the energy of your love for each other” – Rev. Carl Thitchener 2003

I am Kerry-Ann Stanton – celebrant.

This is a marriage of two strong friends, clear about being a couple and reaping the fruits of the work and years that have gone before.  Marriage for them is a real milestone, a celebration of how far they have come together. They look forward to experiencing the world together and starting a family. Marriage for … is a new phase in their lives and a way to celebrate their love with you their family and friends.  Family is important to this couple and they feel close to their extended whanau.  Both … Life is hard to imagine without the other being present, best friends and soul mates….
So it is in that spirit of great love and friendship that these two come before us today to marry.

Reading – This will be read by … “Union” by Robert Fulghum
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.

Please turn and face each other


So I ask, … loving … as you do, enjoying her laughter, her support in the darkest of times, her listening and advice, do you join with her in happiness and joy as her husband and take her to be your wife?     I do

…, loving … as you do, his passion for life, his undying support and loyalty, his caring nature, and his endless laughter, do you join with him in happiness and joy as his wife and take him to be your husband? I do


I, …, take you, …, to be my wife,

I promise to always be there
I will always appreciate everything you do for me
And will always be your best friend and soul mate
I will be here for not only who you are now
But also for the mother you will be
And the grandmother you’ll become
I promise to be your best friend
Someone you can rely on, trust and share
Your life with
I will be there to celebrate the good times
And be your strength in the bad
You have had my heart since the beginning
And I promise it will be yours to the end
To me you have always been
And always will be, my true love
I promise to cherish you forever.

A reading to be shared by … and …


This day we shall remember well
As in our married lives we dwell
And cast our minds back to this time
You made me yours and I you mine.
In wedded love we choose to be
Each binding each and yet each free
As days and months and years go on
Our love will hold us firm and strong.
This marriage vow this day we say
A vow we’ll build on day by day
And as we walk the path of life
The world will know we’re man and wife.
We two who are now but one soul
Have each to play a different role
And yet we know that all shall see
The bond of love ‘twixt you and me.
For in this life we each shall care
That all we do is all times fair
We pledge this day to be as one
In all the wondrous years to come.  – Brian Zouch


… I bring this ring, shaped in the symbol of completeness and eternity, and I give it to you to wear so that we will always remember this day and the love that it represents.


… today you joined hands, and exchanged rings to signify and declare your love and commitment to one another.
E pari, e te tai! Kei roto toku aroha
E kore e mutumutu I te ata tu e hinawa
Tide, flow on! The love within me
Will not cease with the dawn e hinawa!
(From ‘Maori Poetry’ by Margaret Orbell)

It is my great pleasure to declare you husband and wife.

Signing the register – witnesses are …

Family and friends … are now married, may you recognise them as husband and wife, may you accord them the love and support that every couple needs as they grow each other and their family.

In completion

Spirit of mercy,
Spirit of grace
Be pleased to bless this marriage
May peace and hope
Here be found
And in each beating heart
May love abound.
(Adaptation of a poem by Norma Woodbridge)

Family and friends I present to you Mr & Mrs …

Procession out of the church